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FROM DARKNESS TO LIGHT
Help your child protect him from yourself!
FROM DARKNESS TO LIGHT
Help your child protect him from yourself!
BELOVED OSHO,
WHAT IS THE RIGHT WAY TO HELP A CHILD GROW WITHOUT INTERFERING IN HIS
NATURAL POTENTIALITY?
Every way to help a child is wrong.
The very idea of helping is not right.
The child needs your love, not your help.
The child needs nourishment, support, but not your help.
The natural potential of the child is unknown, so there is no way to help
him rightly to attain to his natural potential. You cannot help when the
goal is unknown; all that you can do is not interfere. And in fact, in the
name of help everybody is interfering with everybody else; and because the
name is beautiful, nobody objects.
Of course the child is so small, so dependent on you, he cannot object. And
the people around are just like you: they have also been helped by their
parents, the way you have been helped. Neither they have attained their
natural potential, nor have you.
The whole world is missing out in spite of all the help from the parents,
from the family, from the relatives, from the neighbors, from the teachers,
from the priests. In fact everybody is so burdened with help that under its
weight ... what to say of attaining natural potential -- one cannot even
attain unnatural potential! One cannot move; the weight on everybody's
shoulders is Himalayan.
And it is one of the most difficult things, not to interfere. It is not the
nature of the mind. Mind is basically continuously, persistently, tempted to
interfere. It lives on interference. The more you can interfere, the more
powerful you are.
How do you measure power? It is not something material, you cannot weigh it
-- but it is measured, weighed. The way to measure it is by how much you can
interfere in how many people's lives. Adolf Hitler is powerful because he
can interfere in millions of people's lives. You are not Adolf Hitler, but
still you can interfere in a few people's lives ... a little, miniature
Adolf Hitler.
At least the husband can interfere in the wife's life, the wife can
interfere in the husband's life. It is a mutual game; in this way both
become powerful. The husband goes on interfering in his own way, without
being aware why they are interfering. They were supposed to be together to
enhance each other's life but ....
The husband will come late every day -- not that it is essential to come
late, but it is a question of power, ego: if he comes home on time that
means he has surrendered. I know husbands who go on sitting in offices doing
nothing, gossiping, knowing perfectly well that their wives will be boiling.
They can reach home in time, but that's what she wants. Just because she
wants, it is impossible for the man, against his manliness, to be on time;
he will come late. And the same scene is repeated every day.
Nor is the wife ready to drop asking him why he is late, knowing perfectly
well that whatsoever he says is a lie. She knows it is a lie, he knows that
she knows that it is a lie -- and it is a lie, but it is a good beginning to
a fight, a good start, a good excuse. And then the wife goes on doing the
same ....
I have sat with a husband in his car, and he is honking his horn because he
is worried; he has to take me to a particular meeting and I have to be there
in time. And I don't like to waste people's time; I am not a political
leader. A political leader is supposed to come late. Again, the same power
-- you have to wait. And he is not just a nobody; he is so occupied, so busy,
that he is bound to be late.
I know political leaders who were just sitting and gossiping, and I have
told them, "We have to go to your meeting."
They said, "You don't understand. A politician should not arrive on time.
That means he is not a big shot, just a small fry."
I am not a politician. I am neither a big shot nor a small fry. I am just a
human being, neither anything more nor anything less. I have been particular
about arriving in time.
So the husband is worried, and the wife leans out of the window and says,
"Stop honking your horn! I have told you one thousand times that I am coming
in one minute."
I looked at the husband and said, "This is something, `one thousand times'
and `I am coming in one minute'! Where did she get the time to say it one
thousand times in one minute?" But it is a power trip. The wife wants it to
be known who is the boss. You can go on honking the horn, but without the
boss coming down the car cannot move.
I have a certain rapport with women, so whomsoever I was staying with, soon
I became very close to their mothers, to their wives, sisters. And I asked,
"What is the matter? Every day it happens; the poor man goes on honking."
And they would say, "Nothing is the matter. We are not busy, but he goes on
coming home late every day and pays no attention to what we are saying. So
whenever we have the chance .... It is simple give and take."
All the people around you have been helped, greatly helped, to be what they
are. You have been helped; now you want to help your children too.
All that you can do is be loving, be nourishing, be warm, be accepting. The
child brings an unknown potential, and there is no way to figure out what he
is going to be. So no procedure can be suggested: "This way you should help
the child." And each child is unique so there cannot be a general discipline
for every child.
People like this Miss Judith Martin are suggesting measures for every child,
as if children are produced on an assembly line in a factory. No two
children are the same. How can you suggest, how can you have even the nerve
to suggest a generalized program, that this should be done?
But Miss Judith Martin .... I don't know how many times she has become
"Miss." I think at least a dozen times certainly, because no husband can
survive her; either he will escape or commit suicide, but he will have to do
something to make her Miss again. And she must be now very old.
Perhaps finally when she became famous and the most well-known authority on
child-rearing, nobody dared to marry her again, because such a woman, who
has no compassion on children -- do you think she will have some compassion
on husbands? She will train them exactly the way animals are trained in a
circus. She will make them dance to her tune; and her being a world-famous
authority, what can the poor husband do except dance?
This kind of person has existed down the ages around the world everywhere.
They have prescriptions, recipes, disciplines for everybody, not only for
their contemporaries but for all future generations, as to what is right.
They are so idiotic -- although they are known as great sages who have given
you religions, disciplines, moralities, ethics, codes of conduct: great law-givers.
But I say again to you, these people are idiots. Only an idiot can think in
a generalized way when human beings are concerned.
There is no average human being; you will never come across the average man.
And all these authorities are concerned with the average man, who does not
exist! The average man is just like God -- omnipresent, yet you cannot find
him anywhere. God is so omnipresent that ....
I have heard about one nun ... the whole nunnery became concerned about her.
Is she sick or something? -- because she was taking her bath with her
clothes on! And the doors were closed in the bathroom. And when they asked,
"What is the matter? -- why don't you undress when the doors are closed and
nobody is there?" she said, "Nobody? God is omnipresent. Yes, there is none
of you, but God is there, and to undress before God does not look right."
They all must have thought her a crackpot, but she really, literally had
accepted the idea of the omnipresence of God.
Exactly like omnipresent God is the average man: he exists nowhere and is
supposed to exist everywhere. And all the principles are addressed to the
average man.
You ask me how to help the child in the right way.
The right way is not to help the child at all. If you have real courage
then please don't help the child.
Love him, nourish him.
Let him do what he wants to do.
Let him go where he wants to go.
Your mind will be tempted again and again to interfere, and with good
excuses. The mind is very clever in rationalizing: "If you don't interfere
there may be danger; the child may fall into the well if you don't stop him."
But I say to you, it is better to let him fall into the well than to help
him and destroy him.
It is a very rare possibility that the child falls into the well -- and
then too, it does not mean death; he can be taken out of the well. And if
you are really so concerned, the well can be covered; but don't help the
child, and don't interfere with the child. The well can be removed, but
don't interfere with the child.
Your real concern should be to remove all dangers but don't interfere with
the child; let him go on his way.
You will have to understand some significant growth patterns. Life has
seven-year circles, it moves in seven-year circles just as the earth makes
one rotation on its axis in twenty-four hours. Now nobody knows why not
twenty-five, why not twenty-three. There is no way to answer it; it is
simply a fact.
The earth takes three hundred and sixty-five days to make one round of the
sun. Why three hundred and sixty-five? Nobody knows, nobody needs to know.
And it does not make any difference. If it were taking four hundred days,
what difference would it have made to you? ... or three hundred days ...?
The question would have remained the same: Why?
So remember one thing: any question is absurd if with every answer the
question still remains standing the same. In twenty-four hours the earth
makes one turn on its own axis. Why? Make it twenty-five, make it twenty-six,
make it thirty, sixty -- as much as you want -- the question still stands
the same: why? Hence I call the question absurd; it will always remain the
same.
So don't ask me why life moves in seven-year circles. I don't know. This
much I know, that it moves in seven-year circles. And if you understand
those seven-year circles, you will understand a great deal about human
growth.
The first seven years are the most important because the foundation of life
is being laid. That's why all the religions are very much concerned about
grabbing children as quickly as possible.
The Jews will circumcise the child. What nonsense! But they are stamping
the child as a Jew; that is a primitive way of stamping. You still do it on
the cattle around here; I have seen stamps. Every owner stamps the cattle,
otherwise they can get mixed up. It is a cruel thing. Red-hot steel has to
be used to stamp the cattle's leather, skin; it burns the skin. But then it
becomes your possession; it cannot be lost, it cannot be stolen.
What is circumcision? It is stamping cattle. But these cattle are Jews.
Hindus have their own ways. All religions have their own ways. But it
should be known whose cattle you are, who your shepherd is -- Jesus? Moses?
Mohammed? You are not your own master.
Those first seven years are the years when you are conditioned, stuffed
with all kinds of ideas which will go on haunting you your whole life, which
will go on distracting you from your potentiality, which will corrupt you,
which will never allow you to see clearly. They will always come like clouds
before your eyes, they will make everything confused.
Things are clear, very clear -- existence is absolutely clear -- but your
eyes have layers upon layers of dust.
And all that dust has been arranged in the first seven years of your life
when you were so innocent, so trusting, that whatsoever was told to you you
accepted as truth. And whatsoever has gone into your foundation, later on it
will be very difficult for you to find: it has become almost part of your
blood, bones, your very marrow. You will ask a thousand other questions but
you will never ask about the basic foundations of your belief.
The first expression of love towards the child is to leave his first seven
years absolutely innocent, unconditioned, to leave him for seven years
completely wild, a pagan.
He should not be converted to Hinduism, to Mohammedanism, to Christianity.
Anybody who is trying to convert the child is not compassionate, he is
cruel: he is contaminating the very soul of a new, fresh arrival. Before the
child has even asked questions he has been answered with ready-made
philosophies, dogmas, ideologies. This is a very strange situation. The
child has not asked about God, and you go on teaching him about God. Why so
much impatience? Wait!
If the child someday shows interest in God and starts asking about God,
then try to tell him not only your idea of God -- because nobody has any
monopoly: put before him all the ideas of God that have been presented to
different people by different ages, by different religions, cultures,
civilizations.
Put before him all the ideas about God, and tell him, "You can choose
between these, whichever appeals to you. Or you can invent your own, if
nothing suits. If everything seems to be with a flaw, and you think you can
have a better idea, then invent your own. Or if you find that there is no
way to invent an idea without loopholes, then drop the whole thing; there is
no need. A man can live without God; there is no intrinsic necessity.
"Millions of people have lived without God. God is nothing that is
inevitably needed by you. Yes, I have my idea; that too is in the
combination of all these ideals in this collection. You can choose that, but
I am not saying that my idea is the right idea. It appeals to me; it may not
appeal to you."
There is no inner necessity that the son should agree with the father. In
fact it seems far better that he should not agree. That's how evolution
happens. If every child agrees with the father then there will be no
evolution, because the father will agree with his own father, so everybody
will be where God left Adam and Eve -- naked, outside the gate of the garden
of Eden. Everybody will be there.
Because sons have disagreed with their fathers, forefathers, with their
whole tradition, man has evolved.
This whole evolution is a tremendous disagreement with the past.
The more intelligent you are, the more you are going to disagree.
But parents appreciate the child who agrees; they condemn the child who
disagrees.
It was the practice in my family to produce me in front of anybody to
condemn me. Any visitor to the family, any guest of the family ... and I
would be called. And I knew for what, but I enjoyed it. I was called to be
condemned: "And this boy is in disagreement with everything." In Hindi there
is a phrase for it: ulti khopdi -- it means upside-down skull. So that was
the phrase used for me.
I said, "It is true, but the reality is, I look upside down to all these
people because they are standing on their heads. They are doing yoga asanas,
shirshasana -- headstand posture. I am simply standing on my feet. I am the
only one here who does not believe in any kind of nonsense. They are right,
because to them it must appear that I am standing upside down. And they are
in the majority -- perhaps you also belong to them.
"But this is the usual procedure: they don't answer my questions, they only
condemn my disagreement. Now this is inhuman. If you answer my question, and
still I disagree, then certainly I am stubborn. But have you answered a
single question of mine? Have you satisfied me? Have you any right to
condemn me because I disagree?"
In India, at the end of the monsoon there is a festival of lights, diwali,
when the whole country becomes very festive and every house has thousands of
small earthen lamps decorating all the walls, balconies. The whole town
becomes a fairyland, the whole country turns into a fairyland, with
firecrackers and great rejoicing. That day they worship money.
The goddess of money is Laxmi. Laxmi is the wife of the Hindu god,
Narayana, and of course a god's wife should be the goddess of wealth. In
fact one of the Indian words for god, iswar, means "one who has all the
wealth of the world." His wife is the goddess of wealth. And on the night of
the festival of lights they worship money.
Before paper currency came into being they used to make a pile of silver
rupees and worship them. Now they put paper money and worship it. Before
silver rupees there were golden rupees. The word rupee simply means gold; it
comes from Sanskrit. It is an Indian word ... because in the beginning the
coin was gold, pure gold, so the word rupia, which became in English, rupee,
was meaningful.
They used to worship gold, then came silver, then came paper currency. And
they went on ... the question is of worshiping money. I never participated
in their worship. I simply hated the whole idea and I told them, "This is
one of the ugliest things you can do. Money is something to be used, not
worshipped. On the one hand your religions teach that money is nothing but
dust. On the one hand it is dust, on the other hand it becomes a goddess.
And you cannot see your split mind?
"On the one hand you praise a man as a sage if he renounces money; then he
becomes synonymous with God because he renounced money and everything. And
on the other hand you worship money. Can you in some way help me to
understand? Is there not a clear-cut contradiction?
"If money is God's wife then in the first place the person who renounces
God's wife is a criminal. In the first place why did he possess God's wife?
-- that seems to be absolutely illegal. He should be caught and imprisoned.
In the first place was he pretending to be God's wife's husband?"
My father would say, "You just keep quiet; at least let us finish our
worship."
I would say, "No, first I want my answer."
And I had a big stool in my house -- they used to use it as a ladder for
taking things up or down -- so wherever they would be worshiping, in the
main hall of the house, I would sit on that stool. And they would say, "At
least please come down. You are sitting on that stool."
I said, "No, I want my answers. I see so much stupidity in it, because I
have seen you touching people's feet who have renounced money. Then you tell
me that this man is great, a sage: he has kicked all that is thought to be
valuable and that needs courage and guts. But what are you doing? If that
man is right to renounce all this money, at least stop worshiping it. And
you have to answer me; otherwise my disagreement continues."
My mother would say to me, "On such days you should be out of the house
because you don't know -- if the goddess Laxmi becomes angry we will all
starve and be hungry and die poor."
I said, "I have been doing this year after year, sitting on my stool. I
don't see that your goddess can do anything. If she can, I challenge her --
let her, because at least that will give me some answer." And when they were
all finished with their worship I would go and kick their rupees, and spit
on their rupees, and I would say, "Now this is what I wanted to do; now let
us see who is rewarded." They could not prevent me, although they tried
hard.
I said, "You cannot prevent me. I will do what I want to do, unless you
prove me wrong. And you call me in front of everybody saying that I am in
disagreement about everything. I have to be in disagreement about
everything, for the simple reason that you go on doing things that any
intelligent person would see the contradiction in."
For example, in India, if somebody has smallpox it is not thought to be a
physical disease. Smallpox is called in India, mata; mata means mother
goddess. And in every town there is a temple for the mother goddess, or many
temples ... the mother goddess is angry, that's why poor little children are
suffering from smallpox.
People like Mahatma Gandhi were against vaccination because it was
unnatural. Smallpox is natural. It destroys so many beautiful children's
faces, their eyes, and it kills many. And the prophet of non-violence was
against vaccination because he was against anything scientific -- and
moreover it was thought the disease is not a physiological disease, it is a
spiritual anger.
One of my sisters died of smallpox, and I was very angry because I loved
that sister more than any of my brothers or my sisters. I told them, "You
have killed her. I have been telling you that she needs vaccination.
"I have suffered from smallpox, but at that time I could not say anything
to you; I don't even remember it, it happened just in my first year. And
every child suffers. When this girl was born I was insisting that she should
be vaccinated. But you are all followers of Mahatma Gandhi: Vaccination is
against nature. And to prevent ... the anger of the mother goddess will be
dangerous. It will come in some other form."
And when the girl became sick with smallpox they were doing both things:
they were taking medicine from the doctor and they were continuously going
to worship the mother goddess.
I said, "Then please do one thing at least; either take the medicine, or go
and worship your mother. But you are being cunning; you are even deceiving
the mother goddess. I am honest, I spit on your mother goddess every day" --
because I used to go to the river and the temple was just on the way so
there was no harm; coming and going I would spit.
And I said, "Whatsoever you do ... but it is strange -- I am spitting, I
should suffer. Why should she suffer? And I cannot understand that the
mother goddess becomes angry and small children suffer -- who have not
committed any crime, who have just arrived, who have not had time enough to
do anything, nor are capable of doing anything. Others should suffer, but
they are not suffering.
"And mother goddess you call her! You should call her a witch, because what
kind of mother is she who makes small children suffer? And then you are
cunning. You are also not certain; otherwise don't take the medicine. Throw
all the medicines; depend completely on your mother goddess. There too you
are afraid. You are trying to ride on two horses. This is sheer stupidity.
Either depend on the mother and let the girl die, or depend on the medicine,
and forget about that mother."
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They would say, "We can understand that there is a contradiction, but
please don't bring it to our notice, because it hurts."
I said, "Do you think it hurts only you, and it does not hurt me seeing my
parents being stupid, silly? It does not hurt me? It hurts me more. There is
still time, you can change; but on the contrary, you are trying to change
me, and you call it help. You think without your help I am going to be lost.
Please let me be lost. At least I will have one satisfaction, that nobody
else is responsible for my being lost; it is my own doing. I will be proud
of it."
Up to seven years, if a child can be left innocent, uncorrupted by the
ideas of others, then to distract him from his potential growth becomes
impossible. The child's first seven years are the most vulnerable. And they
are in the hands of parents, teachers, priests ....
How to save children from parents, priests, teachers is a question of such
enormous proportion that it seems almost impossible to find how to do it.
It is not a question of helping the child.
It is a question of protecting the child.
If you have a child, protect the child from yourself. Protect the child
from others who can influence him: at least up to seven years, protect him.
The child is just like a small plant, weak, soft: just a strong wind can
destroy it, any animal can eat it up. You put a protective wiring around it,
but that is not imprisoning, you are simply protecting. When the plant is
bigger, the wires will be removed.
Protect the child from every kind of influence so that he can remain
himself -- and it is only a question of seven years, because then the first
circle will be complete. By seven years he will be well-grounded, centered,
strong enough.
You don't know how strong a seven-year-old child can be because you have
not seen uncorrupted children, you have seen only corrupted children. They
carry the fears, the cowardliness, of their fathers, mothers, their families.
They are not their own selves.
If a child remains uncorrupted for seven years .... You will be surprised
to meet such a child. He will be as sharp as a sword. His eyes will be
clear, his insight will be clear. And you will see a tremendous strength in
him which you cannot find even in a seventy-year-old adult, because the
foundations are shaky. So in fact as the building goes on becoming higher
and higher, the more and more shaky it becomes.
So you will see, the older a person becomes, the more afraid. When he is
young he may be an atheist; when he becomes old he starts believing in God.
Why is that?
When he is below thirty he is a hippie. He has courage to go against the
society, to behave in his own way: to have long hair, to have a beard, to
roam around the world, to take all kinds of risks. But by the time he is
forty, all that has disappeared. You will see him in some office in a gray
suit, clean shaven, well groomed. You will not even be able to recognize
that he is an ex-hippie.
Where have all the hippies disappeared to? Suddenly you see them with a
great force; then, just like used bullet cases, empty cartridges, impotent,
defeated, depressed -- trying to make something out of life, feeling that
all those years of hippiedom were a wastage. Others have gone far ahead;
somebody has become the president, somebody has become the governor, and "we
were stupid; we were just playing the guitar and the whole world passed us
by." They repent.
It is really difficult to find an old hippie. Just one I have found; that
is Bapuji, Sheela's father. He will die a hippie. At his age -- he must be
near about seventy -- he was living with hippies in northern New York State.
Some photographer took a photograph of him; he was sitting naked on a hill
... snow, ice, all around. And he was sitting naked there. Somebody took his
photo, and those photos have been coming to me. People think Bapuji is me!
It is printed now, because he looks really beautiful -- naked, sitting on
the top. The sun is rising, and all around snow, and he is looking really
beautiful. Many people who have found that photo -- it is a postcard now --
go on sending it to me saying, "Osho, it was a surprise to find you sitting
here."
I told Sheela, "Tell Bapuji, `don't do such things, because nobody knows
you.'" But he will die a hippie.
He brought all his children to me, which no father has done except him. It
was he who brought Sheela to me ... forcibly, because she was not
interested. But he is not a man to listen to anybody. He said, "Once, you
have to come; twice I will not ask, then it is your business. But once I
have to force you because you don't know what you are refusing. So forgive
me for forcing you, but one time I have to force you."
He brought all his children by and by, and almost all his children are now
sannyasins. And once Sheela came she never left me. He asked Sheela, teased
her, "Now what about going back to America?"
She said, "I am not going anywhere."
"But," Bapuji said, "I had brought you just to meet him, not to stay."
Sheela said, "But I have to -- this is the place I have been searching
for."
He said, "I am happy because I have brought you to the right place: now I
am freed of my responsibility. Now whatsoever becomes of you, it will be
right."
If you are a parent you will need this much courage -- not to interfere.
Open doors of unknown directions to the child so he can explore. He does not
know what he has in him, nobody knows.
He has to grope in the dark. Don't make him afraid of darkness, don't make
him afraid of failure, don't make him afraid of the unknown. Give him
support. When he is going on an unknown journey, send him with all your
support, with all your love, with all your blessings.
Don't let him be affected by your fears.
You may have fears, but keep them to yourself. Don't unload those fears on
the child because that will be interfering.
After seven years, the next circle of seven years, from seven to fourteen,
is a new addition to life: the child's first stirring of sexual energies.
But they are only a kind of rehearsal.
To be a parent is a difficult job, so unless you are ready to take that
difficult job, don't become a parent. People simply go on becoming fathers
and mothers not knowing what they are doing. You are bringing a life into
existence; all the care in the world will be needed.
Now when the child starts playing his sexual rehearsals, that is the time
when parents interfere the most, because they have been interfered with. All
that they know is what has been done to them, so they simply go on doing
that to their children.
Societies don't allow sexual rehearsal, at least have not allowed it up to
this century -- only within the last two, three decades, and that too only
in very advanced countries. Now children are having co-education. But in a
country like India, even now co-education starts only at the university
level.
The seven-year-old boy and the seven-year-old girl cannot be in the same
boarding school. And this is the time for them -- without any risk, without
the girl getting pregnant, without any problems arising for their families
-- this is the time when they should be allowed all playfulness.
Yes, it will have a sexual color to it, but it is rehearsal; it is not the
real drama. And if you don't allow them even the rehearsal and then suddenly
one day the curtain opens, and the real drama starts .... And those people
don't know what is going on; even a prompter is not there to tell them what
to do. You have messed up their life completely.
Those seven years, the second circle in life, is significant as a
rehearsal. They will meet, mix, play, become acquainted. And that will help
humanity to drop almost ninety percent of perversions.
If the children from seven to fourteen are allowed to be together; to swim
together, to be naked before each other, ninety percent of perversions and
ninety percent of pornography will simply disappear. Who will bother about
it?
When a boy has known so many girls naked, what interest can a magazine like
PLAYBOY have for him? When a girl has seen so many boys naked, I don't see
that there is any possibility of curiosity about the other; it will simply
disappear. They will grow together naturally, not as two different species
of animals.
Right now that's how they grow: two different species of animals. They
don't belong to one mankind; they are kept separate. A thousand and one
barriers are created between them so they cannot have any rehearsal of their
sexual life which is going to come.
Because this rehearsal is missing, that's why in people's actual sex life
foreplay is missing; and foreplay is so important -- far more important than
actual sexual contact, because actual sexual contact lasts only for seconds.
It is not nourishment. It simply leaves you in a limbo. You were hoping for
so much, and nothing comes out of it.
In Hindi we have a proverb: kheela pahad nikli chuhia. `You dug out the
whole mountain and you found one rat.' After all the effort -- going to the
movies and going to the disco and going to the restaurant, and talking all
kinds on nonsense which neither you want nor the other wants to do, but both
are talking -- digging the mountain, and in the end, just a rat! Nothing is
so frustrating as sex.
Just the other day Vivek brought me one advertisement about a new car,
Lagonda; in the advertisement they had a beautiful sentence that I liked.
The sentence is: "It is better than sex." I don't care about the car -- the
advertisement is beautiful. Certainly if you look around you, you will find
a thousand and one things better than sex. Sex is just a rat, and that too
after so much huffing and puffing, so much perspiration ... and in the end
both feel cheated.
The reason is that you don't know the art of sex; you know only the middle
point. It is as if you see a film just in the middle for a few seconds.
Naturally you can't make any sense of it; the beginning is missing, the end
is missing. Perhaps you simply saw the interval ... where there was nothing.
Man feels ashamed after sex; he turns over and goes to sleep. He simply
cannot face the woman. He feels ashamed, that's why he turns to his side and
goes to sleep. The woman weeps and cries because this was not what she was
hoping for. This is all? Then what is this whole drama all about? But the
reason is because the rehearsal part in your life has been canceled by your
society. You don't know what foreplay is.
Foreplay is really the most satisfying part in sex. Foreplay is more
loving. Sex is simply a biological climax, but the climax of what? -- you
have missed everything that could have made it a climax. Do you think you
suddenly reach to the climax, missing all the rungs of the ladder? You have
to move up the ladder, rung by rung, only then can you reach the climax.
Everybody wants the climax.
Now the foolish psychoanalysts and their kind have put an idea in people's
minds of orgasm. Now, orgasm is even a higher stage than climax; it needs
much more than climax. People are missing climax -- their sexual life is
nothing but a kind of relief. Yes, for a moment you feel relieved of a
burden, just like a good sneeze. How good it feels afterwards! -- but for
how long? How long can you feel good after a sneeze? How many seconds, how
many minutes can you brag that "I had such a sneeze, it was great." As the
sneeze is gone, with it goes all the joy too.
It was simply something bothering you. You are finished with that
botheration, there is a little relaxation. That's the sexual life of most of
the people in the world. Some energy was bothering you, was making you
heavy; it was turning into a headache. Sex gives you a relief.
But the way children are brought up is almost butchering their whole life.
Those seven years of sexual rehearsal are absolutely essential. Girls and
boys should be together in schools, in hostels, in swimming pools and beds.
They should rehearse for the life which is going to come; they have to get
ready for it. And there is no danger, there is no problem, if a child is
given total freedom about his growing sexual energy and is not condemned,
repressed -- which is being done.
A very strange world it is in which you are living. You are born of sex,
you will live for sex, your children will be born out of sex -- and sex is
the most condemned thing, the greatest sin. And all the religions go on
putting this crap in your mind. They have made you almost brown bags.
Only in New Jersey did I come to know what brown bags are. Strange, I don't
know whether it happens all over America or only in New Jersey because I
have not seen anything else, only New Jersey. In New Jersey when I used to
go to drive in the morning, everybody was coming with a brown bag full of
all crap, putting it by the side of the road.
I enquired, "What is the matter? Couldn't they have found any other color?
A brown bag?" But then I thought perhaps that's exactly right. Most of the
people are simply brown bags. Never open anybody.
It happened in my childhood: India became independent but the British
government had left some Indian states. India was in two separate sections;
only one was under British rule. There were small pockets all over India of
Indian states which were still ruled by Indian kings. They were under
British government -- their foreign policy was ruled by the British
government, but otherwise in their internal policy they were completely
free.
When the Britishers left India they left it in a mess, in a real mess.
First, they divided India and Pakistan; second they left the Indian states
absolutely in a limbo, without making any decision about them. The idea was
to create a chaos, and they had already created a chaos because there were
so many Indian states. Now the question was, were they independent nations?
Were they part of India and would their foreign policy be ruled by India, or
were they part of Pakistan and would their foreign policy be ruled by
Pakistan?
Nothing was decided, the whole question was not decided. And the Indian
states constituted almost half of India. The trouble was more complicated
because in some Indian states the major population was Hindu and the king
was Mohammedan; in some Indian states the major population was Mohammedan
and the king was Hindu. Kashmir was ninety percent Mohammedan, but the king
was Hindu. Hyderabad was ninety percent Hindu, but the king was Mohammedan.
Just close to my town, beyond the river, was a small state, Bhopal. The
king was Mohammedan, the population was Hindu, so everywhere there were
riots because the population wanted the state to merge with India, and the
king wanted to merge it with Pakistan because he was Mohammedan. But it was
in the middle of India so it was not easy to merge with Pakistan. There was
a great fight between the king's forces and the population, and we were just
on the other side of the river. We could see from this side people being
killed on the other side.
We caught four dead people who were killed by the forces of the king;
somehow they must have fallen in the river, and they came to our side so we
caught hold of them. Naturally, I had to persuade people, "This is not good.
They have been fighting for the freedom of the country; they wanted the
country to merge into India -- you should not leave them like that."
They wanted to throw them into the river and be finished: who could be
bothered with them? But somehow I gathered a few young people, and then a
few old people felt ashamed and they came.
But first, before we could do anything they had to be postmortemed, so we
took them to the hospital. The postmortem place was almost two furlongs away
behind the hospital, in the jungle. One can understand that they were
cutting up bodies ... the smell and everything, so they had made the place
that far away outside the city. But we had to carry these four corpses.
That was the first time I saw a brown bag open. The doctor was the father
of one of my friends so he allowed me in. He said, "You can see how man
looks inside," and he opened the bodies. It was really shocking to see how
man looks inside. And this was only the body: later on I saw the postmortem
of the mind also. Compared to that it is nothing, this is only the poor
body. Your mind is so rich in crap ....
That day one thing happened that I have to tell you, although it is not
concerned with what I was going to tell you -- but it must be concerned in
some way, otherwise why should I remember it?
When we were carrying out the bodies after they were postmortemed .... They
put them together again and covered them. One of the leaders of my town,
Shri Nath Batt, had always felt as if I was his enemy, for the simple reason
that I was a friend of his son and he thought I was corrupting him -- and in
a way he was right. By chance it happened that we were carrying a corpse
together; I was ahead, holding both the poles at the front of the stretcher,
and Shri Nath Batt was behind me holding the end of the two poles.
The head of the man, the dead man, was at my end, and the legs at his end.
I had just read somewhere that when a man dies of course he loses all
control -- control over the bladder also, so if you put his head upwards and
his legs downwards .... I thought, "This is a good chance to see whether
that idea is right or wrong," so I just raised the poles .... And you should
have seen what happened -- because that corpse pissed and Shri Nath Batt ran
away!
And we could not persuade him to come back. He said, "I cannot. Have you
ever heard of a dead man pissing? It is a ghost!"
I told him, "You are the leader."
He said, "To hell with the leader! I don't want to be the leader if this is
the kind of work I have to do. And I've always known you -- from the very
beginning. Why did you raise those poles?"
I said, "I don't know, it must have been the ghost. I suddenly felt like
somebody was raising my hands up; I am not at all responsible." I had to
drag that body alone, for two furlongs, to the hospital.
Shri Nath Batt was in the town telling everybody, "This boy is going to
kill somebody someday. Today just by God's grace I am saved. That ghost just
pissed over me, on my clothes. And that boy persuaded me: `You have to come
because you are the leader; otherwise what will people think? -- a leader in
times of need, missing. Then remember, at voting time I will not be of any
help.' So I went there, but I never thought that he would do such a thing to
me."
These people all around the world are really brown bags, full of everything
rotten that you can conceive, for the simple reason that they have not been
allowed to grow in the natural way. They have not been allowed to accept
themselves. They all have become ghosts. They are not authentically real
people, they are only shadows of someone they could have been; they are only
shadows.
The second circle of seven years is immensely important because it will
prepare you for the coming seven years. If you have done the homework
rightly, if you have played with your sexual energy just in the spirit of a
sportsman -- and at that time, that is the only spirit you will have -- you
will not become a pervert, a homosexual.
All kinds of strange things will not come to your mind because you are
moving naturally with the other sex, the other sex is moving with you; there
is no hindrance, and you are not doing anything wrong against anybody. Your
conscience is clear because nobody has put into your conscience ideas of
what is right, what is wrong: you are simply being whatever you are.
Then from fourteen to twenty-one your sex matures. And this is significant
to understand: if the rehearsal has gone well, in the seven years when your
sex matures a very strange thing happens that you may not have ever thought
about, because you have not been given the chance. I said to you that the
second seven years, from seven to fourteen, give you a glimpse of foreplay.
The third seven years give you a glimpse of afterplay. You are still
together with girls or boys, but now a new phase starts in your being: you
start falling in love.
It is still not a biological interest. You are not interested in producing
children, you are not interested in becoming husbands and wives, no. These
are the years of romantic play. You are more interested in beauty, in love,
in poetry, in sculpture -- which are all different phases of romanticism.
And unless a man has some romantic quality he will never know what afterplay
is. Sex is just in the middle.
The longer the foreplay, the better the possibility of reaching the climax;
the better the possibility of reaching the climax, the better opening for
afterplay. And unless a couple knows afterplay they will never know what sex
in its completion is.
Now there are sexologists who are teaching foreplay. A taught foreplay is
not the real thing, but they are teaching it -- at least they have
recognized the fact that without foreplay sex cannot reach the climax. But
they are at a loss how to teach afterplay because when a person has reached
the climax he is no longer interested: he is finished, the job is done. For
that it needs a romantic mind, a poetic mind, a mind that knows how to be
thankful, how to be grateful.
The person, the woman or the man who has brought you to such a climax,
needs some gratitude -- afterplay is your gratitude. And unless there is
afterplay it simply means your sex is incomplete; and incomplete sex is the
cause of all the troubles that man goes through.
Sex can become orgasmic only when afterplay and foreplay are completely
balanced. Just in their balance the climax turns into orgasm.
And the word "orgasm" has to be understood.
It means that your whole being -- body, mind, soul, everything -- becomes
involved, organically involved.
Then it becomes a moment of meditation.
To me, if your sex does not become finally a moment of meditation, you have
not known what sex is. You have only heard about it, you have read about it;
and the people who have been writing about it know nothing about it.
I have read hundreds of books on sexology by people who are thought to be
great experts, and they are experts, but they know nothing about the
innermost shrine where meditation blossoms.
Just as children are born by ordinary sex, meditation is born by
extraordinary sex.
Animals can produce children; there is nothing special about it. It is only
man who can produce the experience of meditation as the center of his
orgasmic feeling. This is possible only if from fourteen to twenty-one young
people are allowed to have romantic freedom.
From twenty-one to twenty-eight is the time when they can settle. They can
choose a partner. And they are capable of choosing now; through all the
experience of the past two circles they can choose the right partner. There
is nobody else who can do it for you. It is something that is more like a
hunch -- not arithmetic, not astrology, not palmistry, not I-Ching, nothing
is going to do.
It is a hunch: coming in contact with many, many people suddenly something
clicks which had never clicked with anybody else. And it clicks with so much
certainty and so absolutely, that you cannot even doubt it. Even if you try
to doubt it, you cannot, the certainty is so tremendous. With this click you
settle.
Between twenty-one and twenty-eight somewhere, if everything goes smoothly
the way I am saying, without interference from others, then you settle. And
the most pleasant period of life comes from twenty-eight to thirty-five --
the most joyous, the most peaceful and harmonious because two persons start
melting and merging into each other.
From thirty-five to forty-two, a new step, a new door opens. If up to
thirty-five you have felt deep harmony, an orgasmic feeling, and you have
discovered meditation through it, then from thirty-five to forty-two you
will help each other go more and more into that meditation without sex,
because sex at this point starts looking childish, juvenile.
Forty-two is the right time when a person should be able to know exactly
who he is. From forty-two to forty-nine he gets deeper and deeper into
meditation, more and more into himself, and helps the partner in the same
way. They become friends. There is no more husband and there is no more
wife; that time has passed. It has given its richness to your life; now
there is something higher, higher than love.
That is friendliness, a compassionate relationship to help the other to go
deeper into himself, to become more independent, to become more alone --
just like two tall trees standing separate but still close to each other, or
two pillars in a temple supporting the same roof -- standing so close, but
so separate and so independent and so alone.
From forty-nine to fifty-six this aloneness becomes your focus of being.
Everything in the world loses meaning. The only thing meaningful that
remains is this aloneness.
From fifty-six to sixty-three you become absolutely what you are going to
become: the potential blossoms.
From sixty-three to seventy you start getting ready to drop the body. Now
you know you are not the body, you know you are not the mind either. The
body was known as separate from you somewhere when you were thirty-five.
That the mind is separate from you was known somewhere when you were
forty-nine. Now, everything else drops except the witnessing self. Just the
pure awareness, the flame of awareness remains with you, and this is the
preparation for death.
Seventy is the natural life span for man. And if things move in this
natural course then he dies with tremendous joy, with great ecstasy, feeling
immensely blessed that his life has not been meaningless, that at least he
has found his home. And because of this richness, this fulfillment, he is
capable of blessing the whole existence.
Just to be near such a person when he is dying is a great opportunity. You
will feel, as he leaves his body, some invisible flowers falling upon you.
Although you cannot see them, you can feel them.
It has been always a great moment in the lives of disciples when the Master
leaves the body. And it is possible because the Master can know when he is
going to leave the body -- he can collect all those who have been his fellow
travelers moving in the same way. Now that he is leaving he would like to
give you his last gift.
As the Master opens his wings towards the other world you will feel the
breeze which is incomparable. There is nothing in life to which it can be
compared.
It is sheer joy, so pure that even to have a little taste of it is enough
to transform your whole life.
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