With the male and female polarities, naturally, mothers connect more with sons, fathers more with daughters.

Daughters feel the connection from their fathers and try to seduce their fathers and, like Anais Nin, an Author, they unconsciously use this Seduction Strategy, like the Star Strategy, on every man they meet thereafter.

They try to seduce all the men they meet. Because it worked once, with the father, then surely it must work with other men for the rest of my life? Wrong! Many destructive situations arise from this strategy.

Sons feel the connection from their mothers. If they cannot disconnect, then their Second Chakras are sometimes not free to connect with any other woman. Their Second chakra connections are free only to connect with other men. See this action in people like Kenneth Williams – a driven Star and Homosexual.

When we hurt people, we usually have to apologise for the pain we have caused. The forgiveness by the victim usually heals the victim a lot.

The inappropriate connection with children in a hedonistic, selfish adult can lead to the sexual abuse of children. An inappropriate connection with a non consenting adult can lead to rape. Most violators justify themselves by saying that the abused wanted to make love with them. But because children and young adults are used to this second chakra connections with their parents, they sometimes inappropriately try to connect with others in this way. Then they get a shock when they are raped.

It is wise to know that any inappropriate connection will lead to more pain being held in the second chakra of the violated. The law being broken is the law of Harmlessness. Once pain is held in the second chakra then any connection can lead to more pain being added to that already held. "To those that have, more will be given. To those that have not, it will all be taken away."

It is wise not to give any more pain to those already afflicted. This is the reason why many Saints will not form a relationship. To those afflicted with this pain, it is wise to learn how to dissolve it. Only in this way can we learn to be free. Again, these techniques are available in the Levels of Energy Enhancement.

Through lack of control, these connections can lead to an adults inappropriate relationships with children Because these second chakra food connections can be of a sexual nature in adults, learning how to use these connections responsibly and legitimately, so as not to hurt anyone, is the test. When not used correctly, selfishly, then sometimes inappropriate feelings are created in the adult towards the unprotected child. When the connection meant to feed the child arouses sexual feelings in the adult.

The NSPCC, The National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children knows about the physical and sexual abuse given to many children. The Violator uses abuse to gain energy from the children.

These feelings are a distortion of true love, because they are selfish and can lead to abuse of a child before it is able to handle these energies appropriately. They are not full grown and are before the age of consent. Whenever connection with anyone is not appropriate the connection, causes pain or distress in either a child or an adult. Harmlessness is the key. Part of our training as an adult is in overcoming these selfish desires which will lead to the pain of the other partner. Energy Enhancement Techniques show how to do this, how to gain this control, in easy stages.

One of our students was abused by her grandfather, as a young child, over a period of years. She came to hate him and the repressed pain was causing many difficulties in her personal life. With her partners. One thing she remembered was that when he died, she received a telephone call from him which she had slammed down in disgust.

We gave her healing on a few occasions and there was always this strong energy there which we could not get rid of. One of her friends was present at one of the healings, and when the healing began, she said, in a very strange voice. "Can I talk?" we said, "Yes" and immediately she started to say, in a very old restricted voice "Forgive me. Forgive me!". When she said this, our student became as if electrified and said later that this was the same voice she had heard over the telephone many years ago. But this time she understood. She forgave her Grandfather and this time the energy was allowed to move on using Energy Enhancement Level Two.

If we cannot forgive, then sometimes the one we need to forgive will stick with us parasitically, draining our energies and upsetting our emotions until allowed to pass on. Disease is caused in this way. As well as a lot of misery as the held in pain affects our relationships. The friend was very surprised and happy at being so much use. It had never happened to her before and she felt very strange at being inside what felt at the time like a dying mans body.

As well as being a connection to give food to children, this second chakra connection is used by adults in the creation of children. It is the source of the sexual connection. Whereas it is a completely legitimate use of the connection, between consenting adults, to create children. The feeling of the connection in an adult, can give completely inappropriate feelings of desire towards any child or adult person with whom that adult has a connection or wants to form a connection. Unconsciously we get very good at forming connections with the people and things which we desire.

Energy Enhancement techniques teaches protection techniques where we can choose whether to allow these connections from other people or not.

To have a free choice of connection we need to beware of inappropriate desire and aversion to these connections, before we can make a completely free choice.

The Heart connection is a higher connection and always appropriate but sometimes partners who are used to the second chakra connection. Who still think of the second chakra connection as love and not a food connection. Who have been used to this connection all their lives. These people hate being cut off from that which they are used to. We can be addicted to the second chakra. The aim is not to totally cut off from the second chakra as in celibacy, but to be free to connect or not to connect whenever appropriate. To be free to use our energies in whatever way we choose, subject to the law of Harmlessness to ourselves and others.

Remember the Buddha said selfish or inappropriate attachment leads to pain. Energy Enhancement Techniques teach how to connect appropriately. It is nice for couples to learn how to do this together to prevent misunderstandings. We can even use these techniques to enhance our sexual relationships. The aim, however, is to teach how to raise our energies. Control of the energies of the Second Chakra is the Stage reached after the opening of the Heart.

The Opening of the Heart starts with just a little feeling, noticing anothers pain. Of wanting to help others just a little. As it opens more then this feeling can grow into full blown compassion.

Any pain held in the abdomen or second chakra, for whatever reason causes a fear of movement of the second chakra. Scientific surveys have shown that as many as 35% of all people have this pain. They find difficulty in breathing into the abdomen, because any movement of the second chakra can release this pain so that the person feels it. People who cannot automatically breathe into the abdomen are known as chest breathers. Breathing into the abdomen is the normal way of breathing. Look at any baby. In a normal full breath, 40% of the breath goes into the abdomen, 40% of the breath goes into the chest and the top 20% goes into the top of the chest under the collar bones.

When sitting, we only need to breathe into the abdomen to get the amount of oxygen the body needs. Only when we work at hard exercise do we need to use the full extent of our lungs. Therefore, when we cannot breathe into the abdomen, we usually only breathe into either the chest or the collar bones.

The chest without the use of the abdomen can supply the resting oxygen rate and only gets into trouble during heavy exercise, for example they may get overly tired during and after something like aerobics.

However, when we can only breathe into the upper chest, then the breath can supply us with only half the amount of oxygen needed at rest. We breathe faster. Still we run out of oxygen and the unconscious part of the mind which monitors the carbon dioxide levels in the blood from a sensor in the carotid artery where the blood enters the brain. The unconscious mind says "Breathe faster you fool. I’m dying!".

There is a sense of constant weakness, almost cosmic fear, and anxiety which at moments of stress pushes the body into a panic attack of fast breathing; in the past, usually associated with hypertension. In these cases there is an almost constant oxygen lack which can, over the years, end up in M.E. (Myolitic Encephalitis or yuppie flu) or M.S. ( Multiple Sclerosis). The bodies weakest link is attacked physically.

I once had a class of people with MS. All of them had problems breathing automatically into the abdomen. Their disease stabilised and slightly improved when they learnt to breathe automatically over the period of a year.

As well as physical disease, the psychic physiology is under stress. It is weakened. Higher energies cannot possibly even start to flow towards the higher energy centres. So clearing this pain is a prerequisite, before we can start to act like real human beings.

Any pain, any fear, held in the body will make us act automatically in fight or flight mode, in fear of anything which looks as though it might harm us. It will make us afraid of anything out of the normal.

So the black crows will peck the white crows to death. So the Jews are burnt in the gas ovens.

Pain and fear are at the base of anger. We only become angry or aggressive when our energies are low. The aim of Energy Enhancement is to teach how to get rid of this stored pain. And then to teach how never to get this pain ever again.

The Major Initiation of Stage 3 of Level One of Energy Enhancement. Or The Discharge of Negative Energies into the Earth is the way of transmuting all pain and negative energy in the system into pure positive spiritual energy.

When our energies are high we have no fear, hatred, anger or jealousy. We do not get bored. We enjoy working creatively towards our aim in life. We start to reach towards our fulfilment.